Start Slowly
Because there is a very fine line between pain and pleasure during anal sex, we suggest that you
begin your anal explorations very slowly and proceed at a leisurely pace that will allow to
experience and appreciate each level of insertion.
It's a good idea to start with some external stimulation, either using a
finger or with a little analingus. Make sure you have
plenty of lubrication, as even the slightest bit of dryness
can cause a very painful snag.
Begin insertion by using a finger or other small object. Proceed little by little, carefully watching
the reaction of the receiver. Do everything you can to keep it pleasurable. You may find that it will
take several sessions before you can even proceed to anything more than a finger.
Once you proceed to something bigger (ie., a penis, dildo or butt plug), you'll need to revisit the
lubrication issue and be even more careful with the speed. The key for the receiver is to relax
the anus and the sphincter - breathing outward during insertion can help quite a bit here. The more
the receiver relaxes, the easier insertion is. As the giver, ease each little bit in and slowly withdraw until the receiver can handle normal sexual
pumping action.
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